Be okay with imperfection
This one is for all you perfectionists out there: you know who you are. What’s really fascinating about perfectionism is how absolutely paralyzing it is. As a recovering perfectionist myself, I’m well aware of how many projects don’t get started because you don’t want to mess it up. How many really fun sounding activities you don’t try because you’re afraid to look like an idiot. How many of the dreams you have that won’t happen because you aren’t sure the perfect first step to take in creating them.
Fear of making a mistake holds us back in so many ways. I know someone who is so concerned that her friends will love the gifts she gives them at Christmas or birthdays that she’ll be up to a year late in presenting them – and many of the gifts have been returned to the store several times before they reach the intended recipient.
Perfectionism is tied to over-spending, and surprisingly being over-weight. Perfectionists have an all or nothing mentality, so if they can’t be perfect with their diet, or exercise program, for example, they don’t even try.
And there’s so much fun stuff we might miss out on out of fear of not doing it right. Think of a child learning to paint. They have a blast and love what they create. And while we love what they create because it comes from a place of joy and we love them – seriously, is it perfect? Me? I love to sing. I just don't do it well. (Caution if you're in my vicinity - that doesn't stop me!)
Just for today, pay attention to how many times you let your fear of being imperfect control how you live. If you’re really brave, get started on something new – even if you don’t know precisely how to do it. We have to remember that although it’s cool to strive toward excellence, very few people get there without years of practice. As GK Chesterson said “Anything worth doing is worth doing badly."
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Until next time,
Wishing you vibrant health and a beautiful day!